Here are some of the worries and fears parents have shared with us about getting their child tested for HIV.
As we stress in talking HIV, children know the difference between public and family information. They will not go and tell everyone as they know this is something that needs to be kept in the family, and they value being given the chance to be part of that.
For many young people, they already know as they have found letters, overheard conversations or looked up the names of medicines in the house, so they may have already been keeping this confidential without you even asking.
If you are worried about where the information about your child’s test will be stored, talk to the person doing the test beforehand. Medical records are confidential, so you can ask where it will be recorded and who will be able to see it.
If your child’s test is negative, no one needs to be told about this. If it is positive, then the HIV children’s specialists will look after your information. No one outside of your child’s medical team needs to be told, so you do not have to worry about this.
If you are worried you may bump into someone when you are at hospital and they ask you why you are there, you should prepare some answers beforehand. You could just say you are coming for some tests, or collecting some results. Talk to your doctor or nurse, they can help you with that. If you are really worried about this, ask that the tests happen somewhere you are comfortable with.
Although it is important that your partner knows you have HIV, as they will need to be tested too, at this point the most important thing is having your child tested. A mother has automatic parental responsibility for their child, therefore the mother can give consent for their child to be tested for HIV.
After you have had your child tested, you may want to go and find help from a support service or health advisor for help with telling your partner.
As we have said before, this does not necessarily mean they do not have HIV.