It’s not unusual for a parent or parents who have HIV not to tell their children about their status. They may worry about how their child will react to this information; will it upset them too much, or be a burden, or will they tell a lot of other people about it?
It’s also quite usual for young people who live with HIV positive family members to find out by accident, for example through a hospital letter, overhearing something or by looking online for the types of medicines their parent(s) take.
If you found out in this way, without being told directly, you may have felt or even still feel scared, confused or angry. This is a perfectly normal reaction to the situation. It can be very difficult to work out why some important information was kept from you by your close family. Unfortunately HIV is something which a lot of people can feel scared about, and even though your family member may have really wanted to tell you they have HIV, they may have been scared of what your reaction would be to finding out.
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